HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY? OR IS IT?

 

 

 

Honesty is the best policy. Or is it? I believe that you should always be honest, yes the truth may hurt sometimes or it’s not what people want to hear but lies are one of the most poisonous things in the world. This post isn’t an indirect or that much of a rant. Its just a thought that has been in my head based on people in my life’s actions. 

To me, a lie is a lie – not matter which way you cook it. However, there are different types of lies. I am not talking about your little daily portion of porkies, I mean ones that have a larger impact on people. But do you tell someone the truth if it’ll hurt them? Even little things like, “Does this suit me?” – when it really doesn’t or “Do you like it?” – when the answer is GOSH NO! You get the gist of what I am trying to say? Like when is it okay to lie? My opinion is never, but as humans I feel that there is a need for it sometimes.

Question, is keeping a secret being dishonest? I would say yes and no. No because something’s are actually better left unsaid, however some secrets are kept because people know that if the truth comes out then something’s behaviour will alter in a way that the “secret keeper” doesn’t want it to. I’m not saying that I’ve never lied or told porkies, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve either told the truth or just said nothing. I just think, why lie. Like if someone asks me a question I don’t want to answer, I’ll just say “I’m not going to answer that”.

Honest is more than not lying. It is telling the truth, speaking the truth, living the truth, and loving the truth.
– James E. Faust –

Being honest is really important to me and I pride myself on making a conscience effort to be honest. Yes, I do still tell little porkies e.g. when someone asks if I am okay and I say yes even though I really am not. No excuses, but that is because I don’t like burdening people with my problems.

This post is a tad scattered. But so are the thoughts in my head sometimes LOL.

Truth and love,

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  1. April 2, 2017 / 11:51 am

    I pride myself on being an honest person because I don’t like being lied to and I don’t like finding out someone I trusted has lied to me. I love this post because it breaks down the impact of lying and the positives about being an honest person xx

    Itsallzara.blogspot.co.uk

    • AshleeMoyo
      April 23, 2017 / 12:23 pm

      Yeah, I think that’s the biggest part of it all. People don’t realise what a little lie could do.

      Ashlee x

  2. April 2, 2017 / 2:12 pm

    A lie is always a lie I agree on that and sometimes telling the truth does hurt people, it’s such a difficult topic. I think if someone asked me if something looked good and it didn’t, I’d try to suggest an alternative and not answer the question directly so as t avoid lying. I to tell lies as you said when asked if you’re ok and I reply ‘I’m fine’ when I’m not but in that situation, the only person the lie is hurting is yourself really. Now my brain hurts thinking about it haha. We all lie, but we can choose the level of severity. Oh and my thoughts are always fragmented lol!

    Sophia xx http://sophiawhitham.co.uk

    • AshleeMoyo
      April 23, 2017 / 12:28 pm

      Ahh, suggesting an alternative is a great way to avoid lying and saving someones feelings. Yeah, with those kind of questions you are only really hurting yourself and not really anyone else. Lool, thank you for sharing your thoughts and opinions (: x

  3. April 2, 2017 / 3:00 pm

    I’m the same as you, I do tell little lies (mainly about how I’m feeling) because I don’t want to bother people with my issues, but I know that if I’m honest, my problems can possibly get sorted out quicker. Love this post!

    – Chloe
    chloetommo.co.uk
    xoxo

    • AshleeMoyo
      April 23, 2017 / 12:29 pm

      Yeah, sometimes we have to reach out for help (: x

  4. April 3, 2017 / 9:26 am

    I agree! Honesty definitely is the best policy 🙂 I think as well with certain situations like you say ‘does this suit me?’ I think it is how people say it more than the honesty. For me personally anyway, I’d have more respect for a friend who was honest and said it didn’t look right on me but as long as they said it in way that wasn’t just being plain rude or insulting and bitchy then that’s fair enough 🙂 I think when asking someone an opinion like that we have to be prepared to actually take the opinion whether you want to hear it or not. I’ve noticed that amongst friends before and it’s daft asking does this suit me if you’re going to be upset when they say a negative response (unless like I say they are just down right insulting in their response). If that makes sense haha! I think it depends on certain situations as well, I’d have to put myself in that person’s shoes . I’m definitely a lot more braver about being honest with people compared to when I was younger, I was quite a people pleaser so I’d hate to upset anyone so I’d stay out of certain situations like that, whereas now I don’t worry so much about it and I speak out a lot more about how I feel and offer opinions if they ask etc. haha I think in those situations where we are asked to keep a secret I think it depends what is it, most situations if its like something small like ‘don’t tell anyone that I haven’t washed my hair today’ haha or something small like that then I’d be like ‘its not my business to tell anyone’ but if it is something that is harmful where a person maybe in danger then I’d have to speak up if I felt it would help them or at least encourage them to speak to someone about it. But like I say it depends on how heavy the situation is I suppose 🙂
    Thanks for sharing this post, I found it really thought provoking reading it and thinking of my response 🙂 I like when posts really make me think like this one has 🙂

    VioletDaffodils
    xx

    • AshleeMoyo
      April 23, 2017 / 12:32 pm

      Kate, thank you so much for sharing your opinion. It is exactly that! I will have so much more respect for someone who is honest and tries to deliver the message in a positive way. Yeah, that does make sense 🙂 Same, as I have gotten older I have just started living by being honest even if it’ll make me look silly or people don’t like the truth. I do try and deliver everything in the nicest way possible.

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